Marriage (Photo credit: Lel4nd)
Oh my goodness! I am so happy to be back. How about we all get comfy and catch up? Grab some coffee, tea, a soda or wine and settle in.
It has been an amazing eleven months! In my last two posts, Have a Plan and Love the Divine, but… before my hiatus I mention a man named Kin. Well as of May 31, 2013 he became my husband!
I know, right?
Yep, lil miss “I am not the marrying type.” and run in the other direction of commitment met her match. I truly did. How to explain this whirl wind…
We met in August and the first email I got from him caught my attention. When I looked at his picture my heart did a flip of recognition. From there it was off and running. My plan of having fun, discovering my sexual side and just dating went right out the window. Would I change any of it? Nope, I have never been happier or more content in my whole life. I have a man who loves me just as I am. He challenges me to think. I love his brain!
*I realize that has some zombie overtures, but what can I say?*
He is kind, funny, loving and just amazing. He is perfect for me. We have serious moments and challenges that we face together. I love that we are goofy together. We have fun. He cooks! Last for this post, but not least or all of the wonderful things about him, he is pagan.
With the love of my life I became a step-mom to an adorable little guy who is currently 22 months old. I am honored and blessed that I get to be part of this little ones life. I am not his mother and will never claim to be. I do get to offer guidance and support to this little energetic being. I love it and him. Let me take a moment to put on the proud step-mom hat and say OMG! He is so smart and adorable. He knows exactly what he is doing. Some of the moments I love is when we put on music and all dance around. I also love him with my mother. It is hilarious and so very touching. He is just a joy. Even when he has his melt downs he is cute. Yep, I am a step-mom.
There has been a lot of adjusting around here. Getting mom to accept that I loved him and he was going to be a part of my life. That she wasn’t going to have to move out, but had to behave. Sharing a bed with someone all the time (okay, really I love that), getting used to not having a lot of down time by myself and adjusting to it. I am learning to make that time available. I need too. Learning a new last name. Knowing that decisions I make are now affecting two people and that means getting buy in from him. See I look at our relationship as a partnership, because that is what marriage is. It has all the romantic association, yes, but it also has the day-to-day, down and dirty aspect also. That is the challenge of a marriage. How do you get along on the cleaning of the kitchen? How about laundry? Turning down the corners of pages in a book? Music? How each reacts when annoyed or upset? These are the true moments of marriage.
Please understand that I love our romantic moments and there are many, but what we work at is not taking each other for granted. Taking that attitude of “now we are married so we have to be a certain way”. Nope, we are us. We are just the way we were before he moved in and before the wedding. Maybe a little less stressed. That my friends is a very good thing.
So that is an overview of the big news. There is more to tell. The direction of blog will probably take off in new directions, but that is what living life is all about, isn’t it?
Okay, now tell me all of your news!!!!