I came across an interesting Google search. It was “why your therapist is not your friend”. This is totally tied, at least in my mind, to the idea of hugging your therapist. Let me float some of the reasons I see for not befriending your therapist.
1) Your therapist is supposed to be honest. Understanding, but honest. While they can think your great you need that detachment on their part.
2) Therapists are professionals. They can be subpoenaed. They submit notes on you to your insurance company and work with your other physicians. If you think of your therapist as your friend, saw your medical files and were stunned by what was in them how would you react? Would you be able to separate your friend from the professional?
3) Looking at the relationship with my therapist as professional allows me to not take what he says personally. I know he is doing his job, which I pay for, and that is what I want. I’m not saying that it is all sunshine and light. It isn’t, but I never get that painful friendship moment.
These are just a few things to think about. We all develop some kind of emotional tie with our therapists. What kind and whether it is helpful is the most important consideration. I live in the land of “trusted professional” which is how I feel about my favorite plumber, Bob. Actually I am usually happier to see Bob! Not as frustrating!