Life is a journey filled with change. This is becoming more apparent to me daily by the reactions I am encountering with my changing. Not everyone enjoys the new me. Sad, but true.
Here is the secret though… I get it. My new path is scarier than hell at times from this point of view. I can only imagine what it is like for people the who depended on my always being available. I mean it has to be hard for them. Especially if they can’t see how they are reacting to the changes in my life.
I am running in to situations where it is pretty obvious that folks aren’t thrilled. Wait. Scratch that. They are happy for me, but they aren’t happy with how my changes are affecting them. One example is mom. She loves that I am so social now and loves to hear what I am doing. The problem is I am not home as much. This translates to her being alone a lot more. She doesn’t enjoy being alone. Never has and never will.
In the past I would have given up my new path to meet the needs of others in my life. Now? No, I am not willing to do that. I am willing to compromise. One thing I am going to do is bring Mom with me to some of my outings. I think she would love to meet new people.
This attitude is one of the changes in me. I am not willing to stop my life for anyone any longer. I also will not react with anger to them. I offer compassion and when I can, compromise. People in my life have to decide if they can meet me half way. That I have no control over and I am okay with that.
Question of the day is how do you react to change in others? Are you willing to grow with them or do you get angry?
Peace and blessings my friends.
You go girl! It’s awesome that you are living your life! You are fulfilling the name of your blog.
Myself, I am open to change. Sometimes I’m a little slow on adjusting to it. Sometimes, because I have insecurity issues, I get scared that I won’t be included in some changes. But it is about having conversations with those involved.
I love to hear what my loved ones have been doing, the people they have met and places they’ve been . It opens up my mind and my world. That’s never a loss.
I totally agree with you Alison. Much love sister of mine.
Good girl! I’m doing the same, I face consequences on Tuesday…I can’t wait!
Go get ‘em sunshine! Can’t wait to hear what happens! Peace and Blessing Robyn!
So here’s the scoop. It was a perfect day! No stressful drama now that I have put boundaries in place! All I can say is… What the heck took me so long?!
Way to go! That is awesome! Woo HOO Robyn!!! Peace and blessings my friend!
The more I read the more I feel the need to check my closet and make sure you aren’t my inner voice writing her own blog! Your thoughts, struggles, changes, etc. coincide with mine in so many ways it is eery.
That being said, I used to get angry when others weren’t willing to accept my changes or if I felt they were pulling me back into old habits because they resented my changes. Now, I’ve learned to compromise ONLY with those who are worth it (such as my mother) and are willing to make their own compromises but the rest, forget it. Not worth my energy. I’ll try to give them time but if they can’t, or won’t accept it, if they continue to bring toxic energy into my relationships, buh-bye.
One of my brothers, for example, I stopped speaking with about five years ago because he just could not let go of the ‘old’ me, constantly put me down, belittled any changes I attempted, tried to drag me back to being the way he was used to. In the end, since he wasn’t willing to change his behaviors, the choice became for me to move on without him. Someday I hope he will see his own toxic behaviors but until then, my own well-being is for me to take care of.
LMAO!!! Nope, not in the closet. Try the sock drawer! Isn’t it interesting though to find kindred spirits? I am amazed at home many of us are out here! Peace and blessings my friend.