On my post Wanting, Rising on the Road, commented “it is a challenge to be prepared to risk hoping for something, asking for something” and for many of us it is. What I am learning though is that downside to hoping and asking are our expectations.

When we hope or ask for something we often look to another to feel that need. We are looking for an outcome that we tie to someone else. In doing so we give up control of our reactions. If we say “I hope I did okay on my drivers test” we are really putting out that we hope someone else thinks that we did. What if what we said was “I know that I did my best on my drivers test”. Has a totally different feel doesn’t it? The second statement has the energy of acceptance.

There is a huge difference in the energy that we tie to certain mindsets and statements. If you look at how you think we can often recognize patterns. For me this is huge as it allows me to monitor my depression and anxiety closely. I can recognize different thoughts and take steps before I am out of control.

So the next time you hope or ask for something stop yourself. Look at what the subject is of that action and determine why you feel the need to hope and ask. Can you change that to thought/action to a statement that is not tied to others?

Peace and blessings.