In group on Monday the comment was made that one member was another’s “puppy”.
*Raise your hand if your reaction is “I’m sorry, what?”*
Obviously I have never heard of this “puppy” thing. I mean when Sean and I were little I believe there was a period in time that I tried to convince him to be a puppy, but it turns out that is something totally different. The use of “puppy” here is to express the ability to let someone nurture you. Like a puppy I guess.
*still confused to be honest*
Then Pavel went around the room, pointed out the puppy relationships and I came away with having a pack. It appears that I don’t nurture just one person in the room, but all. Okay, I will admit to being a nurturing person. I can compassionately relate to everyone. I admit to that. What I found odd was the question if I thought I would ever be someone’s puppy. I mean that is weird on so many levels.
First do I want to be considered someone’s “puppy”? I find that kind of derogatory. Am I the only one? When I gave the look of “WTF” to the puppy question it was explained that it means allowing people to nurture me. Um, yes I would and I do. The first person that comes to mind is Jenn. Jenn and I have that relationship where we do nurture each other. In fact, in a lot ways we only allow each other to do that. I should say that she is the first person I really let do that. Another person is my friend and brother in craft, Dan. He totally nurtures me. Actually many of my friends do. Friends that are physically in my life, on FB and here have all nurtured me.
The answer is yes, I do allow people to nurture me. Do I want to be someone’s puppy? Um, no. I want relationships that are built on compassion and not were someone feels like a pet.
What are your thoughts? Have you heard of this before?
Peace, blessings and kibble!