Over the last three days I learned a lesson. A different type of support can change how everything looks. This goes for situations and clothing. To be honest this lesson hit home this morning due to the dress I am wearing.
I have been feeling a bit brighter since the support I received at group on Monday night. As awesome as that is I was wondering why. What changed? The type of support is what changed. Having people understand where I am coming from and just offer kindness without hitting me with listening and then piling on more stuff.
*I realize that sounds bitchy and I am working on it. I know “selfish much, Mary?”*
This morning I realized why Monday night made a difference. It is the dress and bra that I am wearing today that brought it home. I am, how shall I put this, endowed in the chest area. Always have been and always will be. Doesn’t matter what I weigh I am a DD or E cup. That being said I try on every V-neck type of top as I really don’t want to make male friends simply because of the “girls”. The dress I am wearing today is no exception. When I tried it on the neckline was perfect.
Fast forward to this morning. I was running late so I grabbed everything I needed to get dressed and kept trucking. I threw on the dress after showering, clambering in to my skivies and WHOA!!!! The neck line of the dress was very different. The girls where all “right there” and announcing themselves. Did I mention running late?? Well there was a search for a safety pin which I couldn’t find. Nor do I have double-sided tape (thank you red carpet shows for that helpful hint), needle/thread, stapler or anything else that could solve this issue. Knowing that I have straight pins at work I headed out the door.
The issue this morning is all caused by a different bra. That is it. The different cut and support that this bra offers has dramatically changed the dress. This change has also altered the reaction I am receiving from others and the way that I feel.
*Guys: They are just skin and muscle. I mean really.*
I have made men very flustered this morning, gotten many admiring looks, men have conversed with my chest, and doors
for me. All because of a different bra.
*I now have a straight pin holding the dress higher so all of the above should stop immediately. The girls are back under cover.*
The lesson is that sometimes a different form of support changes everything. When you feel stuck look for something different if the usual way isn’t helping. Or if you want doors opened for you!
Peace and blessings.